Goal Review: 2012 Recap

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It’s hard to imagine that there’s less than a week left in 2012. A year ago, I was a bit hesitant to publicly share my goals. In my opinion, goals are a highly personal matter. Did I want to make myself vulnerable and publicly share? I decided to share because of Brene’s Brown’s Ted Talk on vulnerability. Plus, I wanted to see how important of a role public accountability would play in my efforts to achieve my goals. In retrospect, my goals broke down into two categories: need to happen, and want to happen. Lets see how I did:

Professional:

Get into graduate school. At the time, this was a need-to-happen goal. I was still in Taiwan and had planned to return to DC in the Fall of 2012 to begin a masters in international relations. I got into both schools I applied to, but got no financial aid from either. After turning down one and deferring the other, I finally decided to let my deferral lapse. I’d love to go back to school, but I was definitely not interested in adding more loans on top of the ones I still have for undergrad. School can wait. Maybe Fall 2014 or 2015?

Get published in an academic journal. This was a want-to-happen goal. After deciding to postpone grad school for another year or two, this goal no longer was something I wanted to achieve.

Pass the TOCFL Master or HSK 5. This was a want-to-happen goal. I had been in Taiwan for a month when I wrote my goals for 2012, and passing a government proficiency test seemed like a great way to demonstrate competency in Mandarin. Even after I decided to end my stay in Taiwan, I was still determined to earn the certificate, if only to justify the months I spent abroad. Despite signing up for the HSK in April and November, I skipped both exams knowing full well that I wasn’t adequately prepared.

Getting a policy- or IR-related job, preferably in DC. At the time, this was a want-to-happen goal. My intention last year was to work full-time while going to grad school part-time. Getting a job, however, became a need-to-happen goal after I decided I’d need to wait another year or two before heading back to school. After a lot of luck and determination, I finally managed to land a position with a fantastic PR firm! It’s not directly related to domestic or foreign policy, but the position enables me to be at least familiar with the policies that impact my team’s clients. I’m okay with this, because the projects I work on are incredibly interesting, I’m learning a lot, and I still see a lot of opportunities for growth and development in the months ahead.

Personal:

Learn to code. This was a want-to-happen goal. My efforts to code likely warrant its own blog post, but overall I think I accomplished what I had set out to do. I’m aware of structures and objects, and I have a general sense of how things work. I’ve dabbled in HTML, CSS, Javascript and Python. I still haven’t made anything useful for the public – which was my ultimate goal, but I’ve certainly learned a lot about the basics of coding.

Run a half marathon. This was a want-to-happen goal. I really began trying in earnest to accomplish this goal over the summer when I began a training regiment. After two months though, I fell off the wagon. I began training again in October, but again soon stopped running. I’m a bit disappointed that I didn’t accomplish this goal, which has been something that I’ve wanted to do for a couple years now.

Blog at least once a week. This was a want-to-happen goal. I didn’t post every week, but I did at least once a month. Good enough for me!

Go to church at least once a month. This was a want-to-happen goal. I also stuck to this goal!

Overall, I’m glad that I shared my goals this past year, if only for my own personal benefit. After twelve months, I can honestly say that public accountability had only a marginal impact on getting me to accomplish my need-to-happen goals, but were instrumental in at least getting me started on my want-to-happen goals. Documenting this journey has been a great experience, and I’m glad to have shared it with you all. I’ll be sharing my goals for the coming year soon, so stay tuned!

Thanksgiving 2012 in DC

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Stunning Scenery - One reason why I'm thankful for living in DC

Yesterday was the first time I spent Thanksgiving in DC, and only the third time in my life that I haven’t spent the holiday with family. Looking back, there’s a lot to be thankful for this year.

My career break. Leaving a job voluntarily, especially in this economy, is always a tough decision. I’m so thankful that I had the opportunity to study abroad in Taipei, and travel (if only briefly) around Taiwan, Hong Kong, Singapore and Malaysia. I experienced and saw so many things, challenged myself in countless ways, and met so many great people.

My career. Coming back to the States with no firm offer in-country was stressful. There were moments while abroad that I feared the impending uncertainty I’d have to face once I returned to LA. Where would I live? What would I do? Thankfully, it only took me a couple weeks to receive offers. I’m now working at a career company. Note that I didn’t use the word job. After being back in the workforce for six months, it’s an amazing feeling to work at a place where I can honestly see myself for a while. It’s an amazing feeling. I’m constantly being pushed at just the right speed, the work environment is incredibly relaxed, and the benefits are just fantastic!

My friends. I once heard this interesting quote that people make the place. After moving to Philly, then DC, then Taipei, then back to DC, I wholeheartedly believe in the quote. After meeting so many people (and saying so many goodbyes) throughout Taiwan and Southeast Asia, I came back with a greater appreciation for all the friendships I’ve been fortunate to have over the past six years. And it’s not just close friends that I’m thankful for. Other friends, colleagues, activity partners, acquaintances, and even just folks that I’ve met once but have since forgotten, each individual has shaped my life in each city.

My health. Earlier this year my grandma passed away. And it was by far the most unexpected event that happened in my life this year. Her death was the first I’ve experienced among my immediately family, and was a powerful reminder that life is fleeting. As a twenty-something, I think I sometimes take for granted my health and youthfulness. I’m thankful that aside from poor eyesight and a deaf ear, I’m in good health.

While these are the top points that came to mind, about a year and a half ago I started keeping a log of three good things that happened for me that day. As this article argues, cultivating gratitude raises overall life satisfaction and helps foster a positive outlook. Although from time to time I’ve lapsed entries, the point of the exercise is to be more mindful of the positive things in our life. Try out the exercise for a week and see how you feel afterwards. Hope it makes you more aware of how great of a life you have!

Taking the Plunge: A Year Later

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It’s hard to believe that it’s been exactly one year to the day that I took the plunge into uncertainty. I had recently quit my job, had moved back to LA, and was gearing up for a nine-month sojourn in Taiwan before returning to grad school. I had no idea what I was doing. Some supported my decision and called it brave, while  others called it selfish and reckless. Regardless, the decision to leave had passed. I had made my bed, and it was now time to lie in it.

A year later, and I’m amazed at how much my plans changed. I never stayed in Taiwan for nine months. I studied for a semester, then briefly traveled around Southeast Asia before returning back to the States. I deferred (then declined) my offer for grad school; instead, I found a career with a great company working on some really cool projects.

If there’s one thing that I’ve learned from this past year of uncertainty, it’s this: JUST DO IT!

Quit thinking so much. Just do it.

Obviously, easier said than done. As a researcher, I tend to think a lot – in some cases, way too much. Moreover, as someone who has a low tolerance for risk, thinking through possible consequences is just a logical part of the process of decision making. To the point that thinking about something feels more important than doing something about it. The issue, however, is of course that we get into analysis paralysis. You know, that feeling where you’ve spent weeks (or months, or even years) thinking about doing something, without ever having done anything at all. This has got to stop. I’m serious!

The Just Do It Test

Over the course of the year, I’ve developed implicitly a quick test to help me in all my decision making. It’s really simple actually. I just ask these three questions:

  1. What do I want to do? (i.e., specific objective)
  2. Why do I want to do it? (i.e., commitment assessment)
  3. What will it take to do it? (i.e., resource allocation)

It’s my own way of thinking whether something is worthwhile to pursue. While there’s nothing earth shattering about each question, the difference I think is that I always impose a time limit to consider these questions. For me, that time limit is one season.

Especially for really drastic changes, such as quitting one’s job, embarking on a new venture, or other endeavor, I think a full 90 days provides more than enough time to really assess the pros and cons of any major decision. If after three months the answers to these questions change, I either drop the plan and cut losses, or head back to the drawing board to consider alternatives. Some might find a full season too much or too little time, but that duration is reflective of my own personal tolerance for risk.

So there you go. Those questions are what helped me to really get through this year of uncertainty. It helped me decide not to stay in Taiwan, to travel around Southeast Asia, to move back to DC, to not go to grad school, to find a career, etc.

I’d love to learn about what are the critical pieces you consider whenever you need to make a critical juncture!

 

Trapped in Time

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If there’s one thing that I’ve come to embrace wholeheartedly in the past two years, it’s that change is inevitable. As a resident living in one of the most transient cities in the states, change has become so commonplace in my life that, to not be in an environment that’s in constant flux feels downright strange.

So, you can imagine how caught off guard I felt being back in an environment that, with few exceptions, felt like time had forgotten. Set along rolling hills of pastures dotted with sheep, horses, and cows, the south side of the Big Island, known as Ka’u, is one of the most isolated and least developed parts of Hawaii. I’ve been heading to this part of the island for years to visit my grandparents. Things don’t change all much over here. The sounds here are timeless: the pitter-patter of rain falling on the corrugated tin roofs, the chickens crowing throughout the day, the whir of cars and mopeds passing down the street.

For me, this area is the epitome of rural America, with a Hawaiian-twist. Like any other rural region, Ka’u suffers from similar issues shared throughout rural America: subpar healthcare, limited education and job opportunities, and abandoned homes due to depopulation. Despite these challenges, a tight-knit and strong sense of community and a feeling of simplicity are some aspects of rural life that I greatly admire; however, being back here affirms my belief that, regardless of the challenges that arise from change, I need change in my life. Places that lack change, at least for me, feel both limiting and stifling. It might not always be for the best, but change, whether positive or negative, always presents opportunities for growth. And for me, as a young twenty-something just trying to figure out life, growth is all that I can ask for.